| Manners |
[Aug. 11th, 2007|03:45 am] |
because people piss me off. take this all with a grain of salt... obviously depending on the atmosphere you won't have to follow certain rules.
[i already know brandon hates this sort of thing and doesn't care how others perceive him and thinks it's arrogant suggesting that there is a specific way to act in front of others. i get it. but i'm still posting it ♥
FOOD
• Chew with your mouth closed.
• Do not talk when your mouth is full.
• Try to avoid slurping/smacking and other eating sounds.
• Take small bites.
• Eat slowly.
• Elbows off the table.
• It is never appropriate for a woman to place her purse on a dining table.
• Don't make any rude comments about any food being served.
• Always say thank you when served something.
• Wait until everyone is served before eating.
• Do not drink a toast to oneself
• Soup is spooned away from you toward the center of the bowl to keep from dripping.
• Do not reach over someone's plate for something, ask for the item to be passed to you.
• Do not pick anything out of your teeth, if it bothers you that much, excuse yourself and go to the restroom.
• Use a napkin to dab your mouth, which should be on your lap when not in use. Do not wipe your face or blow your nose with a napkin. Excuse yourself to the restroom to do those things.
• When eating at someone's home or a guest of someone at a restaurant, always thank the host and tell them how delicious it was, even if it wasn't.
• Ask to be excused from the table before leaving the rest of the family or guests.
• Your napkin should never be placed on the table until everyone exits the table at the end of a meal. Place it on your chair if you must leave the table during a meal. After the meal is over, place it on the table, to the left of your plate.
CELL PHONES
• When with company keep incoming calls as short as possible: say you'll call back.
• When with a group of people, excuse yourself to leave the room or set aside to answer an incoming call.
• When with a date or a business contact try to ignore incoming call by quickly looking at the caller ID display and saying: "Oh, I'll call them later". Unless it is an important call, excuse yourself emphatically before taking the call.
• Put your phone in vibrate or silent mode during meetings, meals, events and at theaters.
• Be prepared to have the right reflexes in case you forgot to turn off your phone. If it rings, try pressing the "end" button 2-3 times to interrupt the call then power off your cell phone.
• Don't shout.
• If the connection is bad, tell the caller that you will call back when you find a spot with better coverage.
• Choose a ringtone you won't regret. Consider what the ringtone says about you and the environment in which it rings.
• Be aware of your surroundings; don't conduct nonessential calls in public transportation, restaurants, checkout lines, elevators, bathrooms, and other close quarters.
• Talking on a cell phone while driving is dangerous and illegal in some states.
• Don't leave your cell phone on a table and then walk away. If it rings or vibrates, it will bother everyone.
PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION
• Don't look people directly in the eye. If you are caught staring in the general direction of another passenger, turn your gaze.
• Say "hi" to the bus driver.
• Sit on the inside of a two-seater bench.
• Move your bag. Bags don't go on seats, people do.
• Wear deodorant.
• Offer your seat to elderly, disabled, pregnant, or someone with a baby or small child.
• Don't block doorways.
• Let others off before attempting to board.
• When on escalators, "Walk Left, Stand Right"
• Do not ask questions to someone who is wearing headphones.
• Don't initiate racially, politically, sexually, or other controversial rants.
• Keep smelly foods contained.
• Hold the door for someone trying to make it to the elevator.
• When sick try to refrain from coughing/sneezing or cover your mouth.
DRIVING
• Use your turn signals.
• Make smooth stops.
• Don't tailgate.
• Go every other car when slow merging.
• When on the freeway and someone has stopped on the side of the road, move over to the next lane.
• Let the other car in when merging. Wave thanks if you are the one being let in.
• If two people stop at an intersection at the same time, the person on the right has the right of way.
• When on the freeway, pass on the left.
• Do not block the intersection. Do not enter the intersection if you cannot get completely across before the light turns red.
• Don't block driveways.
• Don't take up 2 spaces in a parking lot.
• Dim high-beams when another car is approaching you.
(I like to flash my lights at approaching cars to let them know a cop is near, but now you get a ticket for it.)
INTERNET
• Don't forward chain letters.
• Lurk before you leap (duh).
• Check the FAQ before asking a question.
• Before starting a new thread, check to see if a similar one already exists.
• Don't resurrect old threads if you have nothing significant to say.
• When writing an email, use the subject field descriptively.
• Do not assume the internet is secure. Think of email as a postcard.
• Use spellcheck.
• TYPING IN ALL CAPS IS LIKE SHOUTING.
• Use the BCC (Blind Carbon Copy) field when sending to many people who do not necessarily know each other. This prevents each recipient from having access to the email addresses of the other recipients, thus avoiding invasion of privacy.
• Irony, sarcasm, and humor don't travel as well online as they do in person.
• Don't get involved in or respond to flame wars. see.
GESTURES & SUCH
• Hold open the door for anyone coming through the same door as you in the next 5 seconds.
• If you see someone carrying stuff and walking towards a door, get it for them.
• Knock the lint out of the lint screen after you use the dryer.
• Don't leave your laundry in the washer or dryer for hours after it's done.
• Don't point anything at people.
• If you want the waiter to bring the check, write an invisible check mark in the air. If you just want the waiter to come, make eye contact and raise your hand.
• When eating or drinking food in your own home, offer some to whoever is in the room with you.
• Knock or ring the door bell before entering someone's home/room.
• Do not reach over or across someone, ask for it to be passed.
• Offer to take a guest's coat.
• Attendees at business events should always wear their name badge on their right to assure easy reading while shaking hands.
• The general rule is to leave things the way you found them.
CONVERSATION
• Ask the person you call if he or she can talk before you start a conversation.
• Don't interrupt someone while they're talking.
• Don't hijack the conversation.
• Give people time to speak.
• Invite others in. If you can see that someone is struggling for something to say - help them out.
• Ask questions. Make the questions easy to understand and respond to. That will give the person you're talking to a prompt and help them to relax into talking to you.
• Respect other people's opinions. It doesn't really matter whether the world agrees with you, does it? People are entitled to their opinion and you don't have to launch a single-handed campaign to convince them of the error of their ways. You won't succeed anyway.
• Don't rain on someone's parade, meaning, don't dampen someone's enthusiasm. You may see all sorts of pitfalls in their plans or what they're saying, but do you really have to be the person to tell them? Can't you let them find out these things for themselves?
• Don't be a know-it-all.
• Do not make disagreement personal.
• Don't discuss party plans or events in front of people who may not be invited.
• When talking to a person with a disability, look at and speak directly to that person.
• When speaking with a person in a wheel chair for more than a few minutes, use a chair in order to place yourself at the person's eye level.
• Never curse or make comments that can be interpreted as racist or sexist. Even if the other person makes inappropriate comments during the conversation, keep your approach cool and formal.
comment if you feel i'm missing anything. |
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